Thursday, June 6, 2013

The 'Damn Near Perfect' Challenge

What's the Challenge?
Taking a cold hard look at where we fail others.

Who's Invited to Participate? 
Anyone who desires a little less turbulence in their relationships and life in general.

What's the Point?  
Because even those of us that are damn near perfect, fall short.
Because everyone else isn't always to blame for unhappiness in our lives.
Because your happiness and the happiness of those who love you are intertwined.

Here are some questions to kick start your search.  Take it from there in your own self-evaluation by being aware of....
* where conflict in your life is strongest and
* in which situations you feel the weakest

1)  This has to be the first questioned answered.  Is abuse a factor in your life?

       If you or someone else suspects this is the case, leave the situation immediately
       and approach it from the outside with help.
      For information on signs of abuse visit,
       A Resource on Domestic Violence

2) Do you expect change and growth from other people but not from yourself?

3) Can you really find nothing wrong with you?  (You're not being honest with yourself if you can't.)

4) What are your favorite characteristics about yourself?  Are these qualities responsible for bringing other people down or introducing unnecessary conflict?

5) Are the standards you hold against people impossible to meet?

6)  Can you find happiness without anyone else's presence or help?

7) Can you find nothing you like about yourself?

8) Do you find joy in bringing joy to other people?

     This is certainly not a comprehensive list of evaluating questions, nor is this professional advice.  Simply put,  I try here to help others gain control in areas of their lives they may not have thought needed some tweaking.  Almost always, it's my life that sparks the idea for these challenges.  Okay, it's always my life that sparks the ideas for these challenges, but we can only help ourselves so much.  Introspective powers are limited and often professional counseling can better lead us to a less turbulent future of healthier relationships and positive attitudes.

Finding a counseling service in your area is as easy as a Google search for 'local counselors in 'insert your township here'.

The blogpost for June 2013, 'Damn Near Perfect' at Write For Life  introduces why I created this challenge and how to dig a little deeper to orchestrate change.